Dear Lady,

I have been a lonely man for a long time. My last girlfriend ditched me because she said I’m not fun enough for her. We went out for nearly three years before she left me. After that, I decided to fashi all women for as long as possible. I had had enough of their wahala.

I stuck to this idea of mine for some time in spite of all odds. Friends and siblings tried persuading me to have a change of mind all to no avail. They became even more concerned because I’m in my mid-thirties and everyone is expecting me to settle down soon or at least have a serious relationship.

Recently, a friend we’ve not been seeing for a long while dropped in to see me with his girlfriend and ever since, I have not been the same. Men, this babe is something else. Not only is she beautiful, she is also intelligent, articulate and reserved.

To cut a long story short, Lady, I’m in love with this girl and I can’t help it or myself. Problem is: How do I go about it, especially since she is my friend’s girl? Do you think its right to try to woo this girl? Please help, as I’m going crazy with love for this girl.

Yours,

DJ

Dear DJ,

I don’t really think it’s proper to go for your friend’s girl no matter how crazy you claim to be about her. You can bet it that your friend most probably feels deeply for this girl, too. He is, therefore, likely to feel bad and hurt if you should try to take her away. Don’t even entertain the idea at all because it is sure to end in a disaster.

Mind you, the fact that you admire your friend’s girl should tell you that not all women are the same. There are still women who are capable of commanding respect and admiration. The mere fact that a few women did shameful or unworthy things is not enough to make you lump all women together as being bad and dishonourable.

Steer clear of your friend’s girl and try to get your own woman. I’m sure with time you’ll get one that is really meant for you. All the ones that have messed up or disappointed you in the past are really not yours.