THE rainy season is here again. The downpour of Saturday, May 11 underscored the benefits of a cool weather to a relationship. The rain of that Saturday which started very early in the morning and stopped in the afternoon was so heavy that it compelled people who had no urgent need to go out to stay indoor. I am thinking therefore that your guy was one such people who thought it better to chill at home?

While we acknowledge that rains bring much anxiety to people who have planned weddings, we still believe that rainy periods are a blessing to a relationship. Rain is a gift from Mother Nature to freshen and renew the environment .It makes the soil, which includes the grounds for   healthy relationships, to be supple and “fertile-suitable” for planting after the hassles of the dry season.

Look at it this way, we work for most part of the year and look forward to playing at the end of the year when the rain comes in trickle or has stopped completely so that around the month of December, we take holidays from work and play hard.  It is around this time therefore that many people meet ‘The One’ whom they marry. Thereafter, it is back to work. To make this tedium, the humidity experienced between February and April makes loving a bit difficult.

However, people have long seen the benefits of the rain in building a strong relationship and have taken the opportunity judiciously. But some have misused it. On that Saturday, for example, I heard many young men say they were rushing back home to be “with my baby because of this rain.” With some of them, there was no serious tone of a relationship, they only hinted at one thing -- cuddling with their girlfriends.

But couples should welcome the rain and make most of the rains while they lasted.

It Brings You Closer

When you work five days a week, you have only the weekend left to meet up with family and friends. There is always a lot to do that you are to relegate your bonding needs because you know that you can see yourself when you want to.

But you have discovered that you hardly have the time to be together as much as you would like, that is why I think that the rain would strengthen your relationship. You should therefore welcome the cool weather with open arms instead of murmuring about ‘this rain again’ when a much anticipated weekend is ruined by flooded roads.  Pray for rain on a Saturday, listen to weather forecast and scope the horizon yourself to see if there is a hint of rain. Then cancel that visit to your mother-in-law without feeling guilty about it. She would feel sorry to know that you drove through heavy rain and flooded roads to visit her when you know that she is always available.

Bar Beach can wait until another Saturday. Curl up together, have breakfast in bed, talk together for once in a relaxed mood without arguing about money. Discuss those things that you have wanted to talk about but never had the time. Your renewed closeness will reveal the areas you have neglected in your relationship and which ‘this rain sef’ has opened your to.

Try For That Baby

A relaxed mind procreates. A man who is not stressed will produce quality semen, so also will a woman who feels satisfied that her man is there at the time she wants him by her side. And there is no work to take your partner outside the home on Saturday. So if there is no pressing need, draw the blinds to the blanket of rain outside, cuddle up and listen to the sound of thunder together.

For the yet to be married, a word of caution: if he is not ready, he is not ready. Yet, you can benefit from the rain and live together forever after. His decision to go for the long term would not be because of the bed-shaking experience made possible by that rain.

If you are cooped inside with him, use that moment to show him your culinary prowess.  Watch movies, ask for titles you know he has not seen and engage his attention by telling him Omotola’s escapade in that movie.

Think of in-house games. Just as the rain subsides a little, start a pillow fight. When it gets heated up, grab your handbag and with one heavy throw, run outside. He will pray for more rain and you.