MOST people think marriage is mechanical. Marriage is simply a miracle. It would require a supernatural effect to keep it running smoothly. It is God who joins people to become one. Only God unites the heart successfully. Marriage needs constant repairs. People change, time changes. Only God doesn’t; that is why I recommend prayer for every family challenge.
I notice that people who pray for and with their families stay longer together, have more fun and get a record of honour. There is nothing prayer cannot do. I read a miracle book – The Bible. And in it I see incredible things happen; the dead raised, water made wine, dry bones becoming an army, a ninety-year- old woman becoming a mother, incurables and longstanding diseases healed. I believe it literally, as I would believe a scientific text. The problem is that we nag, complain, fight, and better than we pray. We think all those other actions will fix a problem rather than praying. I suggest you think again.
Isaac’s wife Rebekah was barren for twenty years, no in-laws interfered, no beating, no quarrel. Isaac beseeched the Lord on behalf of his wife until she conceived (Gen. 25 vs 21). When she started having problems with the pregnancy, she consulted God, instead of nagging about how uncaring the husband hath become. (Gen. 25 vs 22). Am not saying anyone should act irresponsibly and then we pray…. I am only saying nagging will do worse than that. Quarrels, and bad language will destroy more than it would build. You may secure your wife’s submission with the use of force, but it won’t be anything you really wanted. You would have destroyed something in that relationship.
Rachael on the other hand was barren; when she saw that Leah her sister had children, she told the husband to give her children. Jacob was really angry. ‘Am I God?’ He retorted! (Gen. 30:1-2). Some women think they can jolt their husbands to action by their talking… you need to know the nature of man. They hate the nag! Believe me, you drive your man away if you always nag! If you make him feel you are the one in charge, deciding what happens in the home… he will never let you win. The conflicts will be high. Use the silent weapon. Pray. Some say they have prayed but there is no answer. I will tell you some things.
* Prayer does its work secretly. Don’t expect a bang! God sees prayers in secret. Just believe that whenever you pray something happens (Matt. 6 vs 6)
* You are praying to a ‘God of all flesh’. He is not only your God; He is the God of your spouse and loves your spouse equally. You can’t ask Him to harm and hurt another of His creature. He may have a grander purpose. He will do what is right. He will do what is best! Many people have killed with prayers! It is unfortunate how we convert prayers to a weapon of witchcraft! Pray honesty! God is righteous:
* Pray with understanding. The bible says we pray in spirit, we should pray with understanding also. Do you really understand your spouse? Do you know why he or she is acting that way? Have you asked them why? You can’t pray for someone you don’t care about. How do you pray for her? The bible says that we should deal with our wives with knowledge so that our prayers will not be hindered. If you are acting wrongly, your fervent prayers will do nothing.
* Pray with another person. Have a counselor or pastor, pray with you. You need the faith of another in this spiritual journey.
* This may shock you, but I must tell you; prayer changes you before it changes the circumstances or individual you are praying for. That is why some prayers take long. Receive the change; you may need to be more patient, considerate, and careful.
* Understand that Jesus is both the wisdom, and power of GOD. We think of the power without reckoning with the wisdom. For women, you need more wisdom than words to build and direct your home. Answers to prayers come in form of divine wisdom. And the bible says that the wisdom from God is pure, and peaceable, easy to be entreated! A wise man builds on a rock! Wisdom is better!
* Use positive words over the situation. If you have prayed, don’t talk carelessly, rudely, or badly. Speak good words to your spouse. Speak peace, let them know they are loved! Your words should be smooth, and endearing; full of understanding. And I tell you, a miracle is on the way!
E. C Samuel
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