GETTING into arguments and misunderstandings with your man can be very tiring and draining. Do you know that just a slight change in your choice of words will mean a huge improvement in your relationship with your man? You have to be able to choose your words wisely before saying something that will hurt your man over a period of time. Words are like eggs. Once thrown out, they could never be put back together again and that’s when we find ourselves apologizing over and over again.
A few years ago, a friend of mine told me a rather disturbing problem. She told me that she used to have great sex with her husband every single time until one night when the mood in the bedroom drastically changed forever. What happened? They just had an argument where, in a fit of anger, she insulted her husband by pointing below his belt and yelling: “BIG? You call that big?” That was awkward! Since then, even after they apologized, kissed, and made up, their lovemaking has been starkly different. Their bed sessions are now shorter, less fun, less intense, and much less satisfying than before. By calling him “tiny,” she just made a huge mistake. With her careless words, she probably killed the romance in their bedroom for the rest of their lives.
Now, Are You That Kind Of Woman Who Always Speaks Her Mind?
When I told my friend what I thought, she tried to explain herself by saying that she was just mad and angry at him and she didn’t really mean it! But then that doesn’t matter now, does it? The words stuck, and it planted a seed of insecurity that sprouted and grew every time her husband took off his pants. Every time he would take a shower, he’d think: “I’m tiny.” Every time he goes to the toilet: “I’m tiny.” Every time he makes love to her: “I’m tiny.” My advice would be: never say bad things about a man’s family jewels, unless you want to scar him for life. Got it? Good. Now let’s discuss four other things you should never ever say to the guy you love.
You Should Never Ever Talk Down At Him
It doesn’t matter if you praise him 10 more times than you criticize him. It’s human nature that we remember only that one criticism at the end of the day. It’s even worse if you talk down to him in front of friends, family, or co-workers.S o be very very careful.
Never Say ‘Never’ And ‘Always’
These fatalistic words should never be used in arguments and misunderstandings with your man. Like insulting his privates. They plant seeds of doubt and insecurity and they put your future together in question.
Not Being Romantic At All
Some women refuse to be romantic to their men. They say: “He’s not romantic to me, so why should I be romantic to him?” This mistake can also put your future together in jeopardy. You should learn to say the right things to your man.
Talking About Your Previous Relationships
Believe it or not, but this seemingly harmless activity can also plant the seed of doubt in a man’s heart, especially if you’ve already made any of the previous mistakes I mentioned. Why? If you’ve already made him insecure with your words, and then you start talking about your ex, he’ll think you’re comparing him to your ex and that he’s falling short of your expectations. A lot of men would give up on the relationship there and then. So don’t risk it! Now, here’s the sad part. The lady I talked about earlier isn’t the only person who ruined her relationships with her careless words. Over the years, I’ve heard heartbreaking stories from so many people I’ve lost count. If you are one of them, this newsletter is especially for you.
Now, if you are thinking to yourself “what am I going to say to my man to make him feel better” ?, then let me give you a few suggestions.
Supportive Suggestions
Your man is not perfect. He craves your support and respect, but he knows he has certain weaknesses and needs your help from time to time. So when he’s troubled, give him your love, support, reassurance and a few helpful suggestions. Few things boost the male ego more than overcoming problems.
Statements Of Hope
Never say “never!” You’ll want to be your man’s biggest fan, who’s always behind him in good times and bad. Optimism is contagious. And when a man is optimistic, his heart is in the right place to lead the relationship.
Be Romantic
No matter how manly he is, he likes sweetness. That’s because the more feminine you are, the more masculine he feels. And yes, when a man feels like a real man, the more he’ll act like one! So my advice: Don’t skimp on the sweetness. You’ll miss out on a lot if you do!
Don’t Talk About Your Exes
Need I say it? As much as you can afford to, leave your exes out of the conversation. Unless, of course, he asks about them! These are just some of the things men want to hear from you. Simple, right? But their effect is anything but simple. These tiny gestures can make your man love you more, commit to you, lead the relationship, and more. Make no mistake. Your words can make your relationship stand the test of time. Or they can ruin the relationship in one evening, as they have done with others. It’s totally up to you!
To the loving happy relationship we all deserve, good luck in love and life. Cheers.
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